This is a problem common to many of our friends. Once you are a year or two into marriage, most phone calls to India end with questions like “when are you giving us the good news ?” or “when are we having our grand child ?”
It seems that everyone back home is in a hurry to be done with the responsibilities of being a good parent, which obviously include making sure that their lineage is furthered, no matter whether you or your spouse are still struggling to strike a balance with the career, finances and establishing a lifestyle ready for kids in general.
Certainly, there are some good points to what our parents/in-laws say regarding having kids early enough in our lives. One must acknowledge that fertility only goes downwards with age, and the sooner you start the more energy you will have to go through various phases your kids’ life from diaper-days to having your own grandkids.
But no matter what everyone says, your kids are going to be ultimately your responsibility. It’s very much necessary to evaluate the situation with your partner, without giving into the pressures from your “well-wishers” in India.
I tried to put together a few things one should consider while making this decision. Here they go: